| As part of a workshop assignment, I was | | | | three qualities seems tohave the effect of lifting |
| recently asked toidentify 3 qualities that I would | | | | you above the situation. Itlifts you up to a place |
| choose to model forothers. Within a very few | | | | where alternatives - choices - arevisible. And once |
| moments, I had my answer:compassion, respect, | | | | we're in choice, we stop being victimsand claim |
| and wholeness. This reverberated withme so | | | | the power to create the reality we want. |
| strongly that I soon realized that if I were able | | | | So, start with the question. What three qualities |
| tolive these three qualities to their fullest | | | | do youwant to model for others? Once you've |
| expression, Iwould be 'in' integrity with the | | | | identified yourthree, write them down and post |
| essence of my being. | | | | them prominently. Refer tothem often. Go |
| These were the very heart of my core values | | | | through your day seeking to express themeach |
| and talkedlouder of who I am than anything I had | | | | to their fullest. Pay attention to those |
| come across before. | | | | activitiesthat are most in harmony with those |
| Stronger than I can remember, they seem to | | | | qualities. Notice whenin the past you've most been |
| answer thequestion of Who Am I? and Why am I | | | | in alignment with them. Doyou get to express |
| here? | | | | them in your work? In your family? Whocan you |
| I soon experimented with some of my clients. | | | | express them around? And who not? Start |
| Their answersincluded: (1) sharing, self-expression, | | | | noticingwhen all three get expressed together. For |
| intelligence; (2)dedication, loyalty, intelligence and | | | | example, thinkingabout my three (compassion, |
| (3) creativity, love,enthusiasm. All different. All | | | | respect, wholeness), Iunderstood why I am so |
| extremely expressive of theindividuals who chose | | | | passionate about coaching. It issuch a natural |
| them. In each case, the answers tookjust a few | | | | opportunity for me to get to express thesecore |
| moments to come up with. In each case, | | | | attributes - and myself. |
| theindividual involved felt that this was the | | | | I hope you'll try this simple exercise. Of course, |
| essence of whothey were. They also felt | | | | this isone of those 'simple, but not easy' things. |
| energized and powerful. | | | | Identifyingthe three qualities is simple, but living |
| This is one of those exciting discoveries that I | | | | them fully eachday may be one of the most |
| want toshare with everyone. No matter what | | | | challenging endeavors you everundertake. |
| you're strugglingwith, getting in touch with those | | | | |