Lessons Learned From a Recession - Getting Stronger, Getting Better

"It is not about extraordinary people; it is aboutspend what we don't have; credit and credit cards
ordinary people doing extraordinary things....likeare not the same as cash.o We now spend more
taking ownership."time at home, we eat as a family, we are learning
Has this ever happened to you: You drive toto spend time again with each other and talk to
work but you can't remember any part of theeach other more.o Dinner out is now more a
ride? Were you paying attention?treat than a routine.o Dessert out is as much fun
The good news is that you were watching andand more affordable than dinner out.o We do
paying attention, although indirectly. How yourmore family events using what we have; we look
brain seems to watch when you aren't has beenat photos, remember events and reconnect to
explained to be this way: There is a part of yourour kids, parents, cousins and grandparents, and
brain, in the middle of the back of your head, andwhat to what they remember, share and think.o
is about the size of the top of your little finger. ITrack shoes and a two-mile jog around the
am sure it has a proper anatomical name but forneighborhood burns as many calories as a tread
now I'll call it the "secretary." This secretary takesmill, stairmaster or elliptical stepper at a gym.o We
over when what it perceives looks like what ituse our now more limited weekly food money on
knows - it all looks the same (like the same ridereal food and have eliminated many of the snacks
to work each day). It remembers where to stop,that are not good for us; we are starting to eat
where to turn, how fast to drive and as long ashealthier.o We reconnected to our neighbors and
things are as expected, the secretary takes overlearned to share our extra when they did not
and does a good job. When the secretary takeshave enough; we are building our social networks
over, it allows the rest of your active brain to doface-to-face.o We hang up our clothes instead of
what it does best...think about other things; call itleaving them on the floor or on the chair; we do
daydreaming or just thinking, it is not activelyless laundry, and we make things last.o We watch
focused on the drive. When the secretarythe movies, wear the clothes and play the games
encounters some stimuli that it does notwe forgot we had; we treasure what we have.o
recognize, it reactivates the active, thinking brainWe waste less food, create less garbage and
for help (this is called "shocking the secretary"). Soleave less of a footprint on the planet; we are
on your ride, it may be a siren, a clap of thundermore aware that supplies of things are limited -
or a detour - something out of the ordinary thatand once gone, they may be gone for good.o We
shocks the secretary and reactivates full brainare less fixated on whether we have the newest,
thinking. Once reengaged, you are now more inshiniest, best or most expensive, in favor having
control, thinking and you remember.the right things that keep people healthy and
So what does this have to do with our recession?safe.o We drive our cars less, consume less gas
For the longest time we have been in autopilot -and learn about the great things in our
the secretary had taken over; we were doing theneighborhood; in the process we make our cars
same things over and over without any real directlast a little longer.o We slow down on the road
thought of or connection to its impact. Life gotknowing that it conserves fuel and offers a view
faster and faster so we moved along with it,of some great things we generally didn't notice in
pulled in directions that made us work longer,our rush to get places.o We spend more time
spend more, spend less time with loved ones -with each other; we rekindle friendships that
we got busy doing what we always do. Life hadevaporated when life became too busy to stay in
gotten to be like standing in line at the coffeetouch.o We recycle more, go to garage sales, flea
shop - another day of "the usual." Everythingmarkets and thrift stores. Bohemian and trendy
looked the same - the secretary was in charge;salvage styles are making a comeback.o We buy
we didn't notice, we didn't challenge, we didn'tlocal produce that saves on fuel and gives us
remember.healthier things to eat.o We have learned to
Then, in what many people felt to be a suddenextend any meal by adding cans of things we had
event, the recession was on us; the economyin the pantry; we invent new family recipes; we
was in a free fall. Corporate institutions starteduse what we have.o We borrow books and
failing, retirement plans lost 40 or more percentmovies from the library instead of buying new
of their value, jobs were cut and much of lifeones.o We spend more time with crayons, glue,
started changing. We moved out of autopilot - thepaper and a box to make great things and have a
economy "shocked our secretary;" it got ourgreat time.o We are beginning to realize that a
attention. No more just showing up in work or life.gift is truly based on the thought instead of the
No more standard reactions. It reminded us that itcash value - and that a flower picked or a
is time to think, reassess, reevaluate, redefine andhandmade card delivered at the right moment
realign. It is time for full brain thinking. Thecreates the right memory.o We learn how to talk
recession got our attention; we now must learnto each other again.o We get by without 700
from it and use its tough but valuable lessons.cable channels of chatter and stuff.o We now
I am not a proponent of a recession. There areturn lights off when we are not in a room, reduce
so many people suffering because they now lackthe amount of heat or air conditioning and are still
fundamental things that they need. Thisfine.o We live by the rule that for every bag that
commentary by no means minimized thecomes into the house, two must go - one to
challenges that many people face. Because theretrash/recycle, one to the needy.o We buy
are many downs, we must also look for and findday-old, discount and reduced-cost foods that help
the ups - our success is in our ability to weatherus save money and improve our creativity in the
any tough period - to be optimistic and to find thekitchen.o We now treat things with more respect
value, the lessons and the improvements in any- a person, book, toy, car or other important
challenge. We can never throw in the towel; nothing.o We take a bike to work. We get our
matter how tough things become, we mustworkout, get to work and leave less of a impact
commit to finding and focusing on the positive.on the planet.o We rent out or share an extra
Our ability to survive, be healthy and grow asroom with someone who can't afford their
people, families, communities and a nation is in ourhouse.o We give all of the clothes that don't fit or
collective optimism and our collaboration in ideaswe can't use to organizations that ensure it gets
and effort. We cannot always control events butdistributed to those who use them.o We use
we can work to remain positive, so that we findcoupons and look for the best deals before we
the energy and value in today to help us focus onbuy; we understand what we buy instead of
building a better tomorrow.thinking that we'll throw it out and get another
History shows that a recession every now andone.o An afternoon out is now a walk around the
then is a "shock the secretary" type of eventneighborhood, time at a park or appreciating
that can help us redirect and relearn in areas thatnature, architecture, a view or the weather; there
have moved out of control. It can be used todoesn't have to be a purchase to make the
regroup, reconsider and realign. It has forced usafternoon valuable.
to think differently, own our performance andI remember how our lives changed after the 9/11
decisions, and be more accountable to those attragedy. Major events shock us out of being
home, at work, in the country and on the planet.complacent; they remind us we must be more
No more living life on autopilot, like the morningaware, more accountable and more responsible.
drive to work. It is time to see what a jolt to ourToday's recession is a reminder to step up and be
pattern behaviors has done; it is time to getfully present to sort out the challenges, invent a
reconnected to thinking through the day andbetter response and learn a better way. If we
owning our performance.are to survive as a culture - and the world needs
We all had a hand in bringing about this recession.the optimism, creativity, innovation and regard for
How we over-spent, over-borrowed and letlife, liberty and freedom that we bring - then we
autopilot behavior take over, is now creating ourneed to move ahead, chin up, learning some hard
challenges. So, as we take greater accountabilitybut meaningful lessons. Stay positive, get back to
for our actions, we must learn to be better, to beyour core, go through life with your eyes open
more in control of our impact and to think insteadand your mind thinking. This will equip you with the
of respond. To start this process of alwaysabilities to see and respond. No more mindless
getting better, let's dwell for just a minute on themeandering. Extraordinary thinking powers your
positive outcomes and a few of the lessonsworld; it also creates a responsible, mindful and
learned from our recession:o We realize we can'tfully accountable world.