Teaching Your Toddler to Play Independently

Toddlers often get into the habit of requiring Mommore complex, toy (such as toy cars, a doll
or Dad to provide constant entertainment. This isplayset, or Duplo blocks). Have a selection of
a frustrating situation for you as a parentdifferent toys and give them a different toy each
because you feel like you can't ever do anything -day. One idea is to offer the same toy every
and it's not good for your little ones, either. It'sweekday - so on Mondays your child plays with
beneficial for children to learn to play on their own.Duplo blocks, on Tuesdays dinosaurs, on
Toddlers need a lot of supervision and safety isWednesdays play food and plates, etc.
always the first concern. As you decide to startWhen you first have your child start playing
teaching your child to play independently, putindependently show how excited you are that
some thought into where they'll play. You maythey get to have "alone time."
want to teach your child to play for a period ofSome very clingy toddlers won't like this at all.
time near you. This is natural and children haveOthers will be delighted with the new toys.
been doing it through the ages.Remember to keep toys put away and every
Provide your child with simple toys and you'll findnow and add again you can add new toys. This a
he or she will often be happy imitating you. You'llgreat use for excess holiday and birthday gifts
notice your child pretending to talk on the phone,you may be flooded with.
stir things and "cook," fold laundry, wipe up spills,If your child is one who is clingy I recommend
etc. Toddlers naturally love to imitate.you start small. Set a timer for five minutes and
Another option is to have your child play in aassure them you'll be right back. When the timer
child-safe area. With a young toddler Igoes off, help them clean up and come back in
recommend a playpen or their crib. You'll bethe room. Be cheerful and tell them what a big
putting a few toys in there, and it's a safe, secureboy or girl they are. When they're tolerating the
area for them. We have a playpen that only getsfive minutes well, work up to ten minutes and so
used once a day on the weekdays - our toddlerforth.
uses it for a thirty-minute playtime so I know he'sThirty minutes is a reasonable independent
safe.playtime for the young child. If you're having your
You can set up a child safe room for an olderchild play on their own in the playpen or
toddler or a preschooler. Keep a baby monitor inchild-proof room, keep it at thirty minutes
the room if it's outside your line of vision, andmaximum. If your child is playing near you as you
double check each time you're ready for yourwork, however, you can let them keep playing as
child to play to make sure all baby-proofing andlong as they're content. If you see your child start
child-proofing measures are still sound.to get frustrated it may be a sign that a change
I recommend for a small toddler that you choosein activity is a good idea - but once they get used
a few baby toys they're fond of. Keep these putto playing independently near you, many children
away except for their independent play time. Forare happy to do so for long periods of time.
an older toddler or preschooler you can pick one,